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#WifeTalkWednesday: My Take on Godly Submission

Wife Talk WednesdaySabra GilbertComment

I didn't grow up as a believer in Christ or the Word. And with this I then grew up with my own views on how I wanted to be portrayed in my marriage when I was older. I didn't want kids. I was going to be a career woman. If my husband expected me to do all the "womanly" duties by myself, he was going to be in for a giant shock!

In my young teenage days, I was probably everything that was horrible about extremest feminists. Stay home with the kids? HAHAHA!! Having kids in general? HAHAHA!! Kids were a distraction. Staying at home is a joke. I was gonna be a strong, independent career woman!! Typical gender stereotypes were not for me. I could do ANYTHING a man could do, and probably do it better. I was determined to be the dominate in any couple. And if that was ever challenged in any relationship I was in, he got dumped pretty fast.

And then I was introduced to Christ. And the Word. And the way I had decided to live my life was challenged. Like, directly challenged by Ephesians 5:22-24.

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." - Ephesians 5:22-24

Now, while I was obviously not a married woman at the time I started hearing about this, marriage and submission always seem to be hot topics in woman's bible studies and something that we hear about all the time. And at first, I hated it. Some bible studies will even ask you to start considering it in how you approach dating. Going against the mainstream trend of girls asking guys out and taking the upper hand in relationships. 

Like seriously? How was I supposed to do that?!? Let go of my control and let a guy control me? 

What I didn't understand was that submitting in the bible is a completely different version than what people call submitting today. I'm not supposed to just be below my husband and go along with whatever he decides.

We're a team, but every team still needs a team captain. Someone who is going to listen his teammates and consider their opinions in all decisions. And let them make decisions as well. When it comes to getting Fox, we were originally on different sides. Simeon wanted me to get a puppy, but he also didn't really want to get the puppy until we moved. I just wanted the puppy. But we listened to each other and compromised on not making a true decision until we met the puppies and saw if the owner would be willing to hold a puppy for us even though she had originally said first come first serve. (Obviously, other things happen and we brought him home that day instead!).

Woman are asked to submit because men are far more likely to take logic into a decision along with emotions, while a lot of women put emotion above all else. I know I do.  If it was up to me, I would have just barreled forward in getting this puppy without thought of how, what, when, or where. I would have brought him home with only a pintrest board of training tips and a trello board of puppy to do and to buys. Which would have worked about half of the time.  Simeon was the one who thought a few months ago that it would be a good idea to start saving money for our puppy. And holds me back from spending money on un-needed things. (you know, multiple sweaters, ALL THE TREATs & toys!) and instead we have gotten what he absolutely needs for now, with plans to slowly expand to the more fun stuff. 

We balance each other out.

Logic-wise, Simeon probably never would have gotten a puppy on his own. He didn't feel any emotional connection to the puppies until he had them in his arms. Puppies take time and money and commitment that just doesn't make sense if logic was the only deciding factor.

Emotionally, I would have dived right into puppy mommy hood and not worried about if I would have actually been able to afford it. Or without a game plan for the early puppy days. 

I brought Fox into our lives, but Simeon made the plans for him. 

Submitting is

. . . listening to my husband while he explains the logical points of our decisions. 

. . . listening for his lead in our Spiritual decisions.

. . . pointing out my side of any disagreement in a caring manner.

. . . loving my husband enough to softly point out his flaws and helping him grow.

. . . loving my husband enough to not hate him for pointing out my flaws and helping me to grow.

. . . realizing that I can't do this all on my own. That I have a partner to make decisions, changes, and take on puppy parenthood with. 

PS - Since I talked about fox so much, I thought I would throw in a few photos for you :)

My Grad App is in!!

Sabra GilbertComment
I'm so excited to announce that my Graduation App is finally in! I am officially on the road to graduating this semester and I'm so excited!! It blows me away that the time is finally here to start planning a future after being in school. To imagine a life that doesn't evolve around a class schedule. Or even involve thinking about my life confined into three semesters a year. Now a year is just that. . . a year.

gulp.

It's a little crazy to be looking ahead at all the possibilities to come.

Honestly, people keep asking me what I have in store for me next. And I have no clue. The girl in the pictures below graduating below knew a lot more than I do right now. She knew what she wanted and knew how she was going to get there. But God has completely changed my path. And right now I'm not 100% sure where he is leading me.

High School Graduate me thought I was going to be at SDSU for four years for a Biology degree, transfer off to Iowa State to get my Doctors in Veterinary Medicine. Head off to start my own clinic, and if Simeon and I were still together, maybe start talking about getting married and having kids soon afterward.

College Graduate me is married and baby crazy. I'm going to be getting my Biology degree, but I'm not going to use it for Vet Medicine. I'm crazy for horses and can feel a zoo or ranch calling out for me. Or maybe a little stay-at-home gig for a while. Maybe cuddling a laptop and an iphone. Maybe cuddling a sweet little mini me. Who knows what I'm graduating to do with my life.

But it's an adventure that God has called me too. And I can't wait to take it on!!








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How to Make a Spiritual Journal

Sabra GilbertComment
Hi there Becoming a Gilbert readers!  I'm Ali and I blog over at Home Crafts by Ali where I share craft and sewing projects, recipes, photographs from trips, and a little bit of everything else too.  One thing I love to do is buy items and make new projects with them.  I hope that you enjoy this one I have to share today.

I love having journals for all different topics, but I hate the hassle of going to all different stores to look for one....and I don't like the price usually.  I started making my own journals a few years ago by altering a composition book.  This ensures that I have a journal that I like, and it also fits into my budget.


Supplies Used
Composition book Scrapbook papers - 12 x 12 inch Mod Podge sponge brush pencil paper trimmer embellishments colored pencils
Start out by measuring from the edge of the composition book to the black binding.  Measure the paper you will be using for the cover to be the size of the composition book, then add 1 inch to the length and 1/2 and inch to the width.  That will allow you to fold over your chosen paper.


After cutting the paper you will use for the cover, spread a thin layer of Mod Podge (or whatever glue you will be using) on the back of the paper and then place it on the cover of the composition book.  Smooth the paper carefully when you apply it to the cover.  You don't want any air bubbles between the paper and the cover of the composition book.  Do this for the front and the back covers.


Fold over the extra paper to the inside of the composition book and glue down neatly.  Do this for both the front and back covers.


Next you will cut a piece of cardstock paper to be just smaller than the inside cover.  Glue that to the inside of the front and back covers.
Next you will add the embellishments to the notebook.  These can be stickers, ribbon, stamped papers, or more.  Anything that catches your eye when you are at the store will be perfect.


I added a little saying with a cardboard sticker, a boarder with a fabric sticker, and then made a label with letter stickers on a piece of cardstock.



I made a colorful faith quote and glued it to the inside front cover of the journal.  You can find printable ones online if you don't want to draw it out yourself.  I added a scripture sticker on the inside cover of the journal and the pages throughout the journal.  I printed out inspirational quotes and some of my favorite scriptures, then glued them into the journal on random pages.


Now you are ready to fill your journal with you spiritual thoughts.  There are so many ways to record your thoughts.  You can focus on a topic, write what it means to you, search the scriptures for inspiration, and add your personal reflections.  You can focus on one book of scripture and record your thoughts verse by verse or chapter by chapter.  You can pick a spiritual topic that you want to work on in your life and write ways that you can strengthen yourself in that topic.  You can find some great spiritual journal prompts by doing an internet search.


Here is a picture of the finished journal.  One of my favorite things about this is that you can use any papers and embellishments that appeal to you.  Make it your own.  You can also use these steps to make a travel journal, a dream journal, a planning notebook, a regular journal, a fun craft at a girls' party, or a thoughtful birthday gift. I hope you enjoy this project and find it useful.  I would love to read what you think in the comments section below!  Thank you to Sabra for letting me stop by and share this project with you!