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Simeon & Sabra || 2 & 6 Year Anniversaries

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Ready for a gushy post today? Cause that is what you are going to get!! May is always one of my favorite months, summer comes, school is out, and we celebrate our anniversaries! Our dating and wedding anniversaries are only 3 days apart! Which was to make sure that Simeon remembered when our anniversary way! If the 20th hadn't been a Tuesday in 2014, it probably would have just stayed our only anniversary, but we weren't going to wait for a year that made the 20th a Saturday! It wouldn't have been until next year!

Anyway, lets take a trip down memory road. . .


THEN - 2 Year Dating Anniversary


Simeon and I had both just finished our first year of college when we went to celebrate our 2nd dating anniversary. I think we went to a movie and Simeon's brother college graduation party! I was already done with the whole long distance thing and was ready for Simeon to come back and marry me already. Of course, Simeon has other plans and really wanted to get his Associate's in Bible from Grace University in Omaha. (Apparently he is really determined to live in Nebraska!)

(Excuse the crappy quality photos! Point & Shoot + Facebook download = grainy photos!)

Look at those two crazy kids! We thought we knew so much and were ready to take on the world together. Hahaha! I was just about to start my job at Records & Registration at State and sublease and apartment right above Simeon's apartment so that we could be together the entire summer. I was also taking two summer classes that made me completely crazy for the month of June. Ever gone through the entire Old Testament in one month? While learning calculus as well? It's crazy! Simeon was working for his parents the whole summer and spending the rest of his free time bugging me. 

We started experimenting with cookings together and watched countless hours of Stargate. We made blanket forts and lied to the community pool so that we and Simeon's mom could get a family pass instead of paying double the amount for three individual passes. I honestly don't think we spent more than the hours we were both at work apart.


THEN

4 Year Dating Anniversary & Wedding Day


For us, the celebration seemed to last all week since we not only got married, but we were celebrating our 4 year dating anniversary as well! 

We were so excited to start our lives together! And were going on our first big trip, just the two of us! We spent our honeymoon in Omaha (Nebraska. . . again. Seriously, maybe we are just meant to be in Nebraska!) so we could go see Wicked and spent the week walking the old market and picking out stuff for our new home together! But all those honeymoon photos I took are somehow gone! :/

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NOW

 2 Year Wedding & 6 Years Dating Anniversaries


Honestly, I still can't believe that it's been so long already! It seems like just yesterday we were planning our "perfect" day (which, if I'm being honest, I barely remember most of it since it was so crazy!) So much has changed in the last few years! 

We graduated with our bachelor degrees!

We have the most adorable little puppy!

We are moving out of state on our own!

Simeon is about to start grad school!

I have started my own business, and while it works better for me to also have a part time job when we move, it's doing really well!

We've grown so much as a couple and know that we can still continue to grow as a couple as we grow older together.

And I can't wait to see how much more we change together in the future!

Maybe We're Weird

Sabra GilbertComment
So maybe Simeon and I were weird, but when I read this article on The Knot I just couldn't relate to it at all.

A lot of the things that the article said were signs he was about to propose were things that started in our relationship a long time ago.

Simeon and I made the decision that were 99% sure we were going to get married years ago. He was just waiting for the perfect timing, when we weren't separated by by 4 hours and only seeing each other once a month. So most of the time, he has never made a giant decision without me being a part of it or helping him decide. Does this not happen in most dating situations?

He started asking me for my ring size and what my perfect ring would look like over a year and a half ago. Though he had a perfect excuse in how he bought me an Irish friendship ring for my 20th birthday. I think it was perfect engagement ring training as he bought it right in front of me without me even realizing it. And then popped it in front of my face as I woke up on my birthday (of course, when I first saw the box, I thought it was a different kind of ring.).

I guess it's my opinion that getting married shouldn't be something that just randomly springs up on you. It should be decided between you two way in advance and the majority of your relationship should obviously be leading up to it. I don't really believe in being in a "relationship" that is based on the fact that you two may or may not end up together, but lets just see how it goes.

Sure every relationship begins that way, but within the first year, or as soon as you decide to say I love you, I think you should pretty much have your mind made up that you are going to marry that person some day. I know random things do come up, but for the most part, relationships should be taken extremely seriously in the terms of what dating was even meant for. Dating and falling in love was to find exactly who you want to marry. Though I don't believe in tasting every jam on the shelf before you pick one, I think that deciding to even sample being with a guy should be an extremely picky situation.

Giving out your heart shouldn't be something you do very often, because every time you do, you loose a tiny peice. If you give it out to any boy that comes into your life, the piece that you are finally able to give your future husband isn't going to be as big as it could have been.

Now I'm not saying this without experience, I used to serial date guys I barely actually knew. But really THE best relationship I ever have or will be in stemmed from a two year long friendship. I slowly fell for this guy and knew that he really liked me back before he even would consider going out with me.

It was so much better to be in a relationship with a guy who wasn't just wanting to be in a relationship or just wanting a girl around. Suddenly, knowing that he was even thinking it was a good idea to even start a relationship was a symbol of how much he really cared about me. Our first kiss was a giant mile marker in our relationship, instead of just a random happenstance.

So think about changing your mind about how you view things.

How do you approach relationships?