Becoming Sabra Gilbert

LDR Tip #6 - Don't Miss the Big Things

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One of the biggest things that I have realized in the past two years that Simeon and I have been apart is that it really, really, really (can I even say really enough?) sucks when you miss something important in the others lives, or when they aren't there with you for something of yours.

I've been on both sides of the spectrum, missing the soccer games when Simeon scores a goal, or him missing the Woman's Dinner my freshman year. (He somehow manages to only score when I can't make it to his games)

Since we both know how much it sucks to miss out on these things, we both try to get to them, even if it isn't the most convenient for us. Like me going to one of Simeon's soccer games, most of his Saturday games are ridiculously far away, or scheduled during an event that I can't miss, like my LEADSTATE retreat weekend. So while I haven't been able to make it to many of his games, the ones that I have been able to make it to always seem to be on a Tuesday. So luckily, his parents are willing to drive me out with them on a four hour drive to go cheer him on for 2 hours, spend another 2 or 3 hours hanging out with him, and then spend another 4 hours driving home, so I can be in my 8AM class on Wednesday.


As you can see, I enjoyed being completely decked out. I also enjoyed that Simeon's friends would also let me sit in the student's section with them and make sure that I didn't feel awkward. They are quite awesome! :)

I have also enjoyed being able to make it to the play Sound of Music that Simeon was in. This was over a weekend and I was sooo lucky that one of the girls he knew at school was so welcoming to let me stay in her room! Never met before but she was still super welcoming and I had a lot of fun hanging out with her!

Unfortunatly, not all of the big things that Simeon and I have had to go through are good. I was lucky enough to have a boyfriend that when he answered his phone at 7AM on a Friday before a soccer game to a girl crying, dropped everything and was holding me while I cried four hours later. My colorguard coach from high school had passed away at 4 from cancer that she had been battling for a few years. He had known it was coming and promised that he would be there for me when it did. While I didn't get to keep him for the wake and funeral the next week, it was still great to have someone to distract me through the first day of knowing that she was gone.

These are the things that I would have hated to miss or go through alone! Its bad enough that I miss a lot of the small things everyday like cheering Simeon up on a slightly rough day or watching an epic catch during ultimate frisbee with the guys, and trust me, sometimes I break down because I miss the small things. But I don't know if I could have ever made it through these last few years if I hadn't been able to share some of the big things that in our lives.

What's something you would hate to miss with your guy?