Becoming Sabra Gilbert

Road to Homeownership || Part 1

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Simeon and I are looking into buying a house! 

And I'm ridiculously excited about it. Like I already am picking out paint ideas and planning my dream kitchen. I am sooo excited to actually have an area that I'll own. That I'll be able to make choices on and actually change. I can paint! I can tear out the countertops if that is something that I really want to do. We can tear down the walls and build new ones if that is what I want to do. 

Well, that Simeon AND I want to do. It isn't just me who gets to make those decisions. But I get to actually have an opinion that I can follow through with. 

And I'm so freaking excited about that!

Simeon and I go in to get pre-approved on Thursday!

But in all honesty, we've already done our shopping. And I also believe that we've actually already found the house of our dreams. But that is all I'm going to say about that until things get on a little bit more solid ground. 

I can talk about the journey that's lead to this decision. You know, the decision to buy a home as a young twenty something couple that is about $60,000 in student loan debt while having one of us in grad school (thankfully no accruing any more debt) and the other as a full time office assistant at a humane society (aka not making the big bucks but doing something that I love).


Finance Reasons


Honestly, it actually does make sense! I'm the only one paying back my student loans right now on a plan that will gradually increase the amount that I pay every month slowly over the years I'll be paying back my student loans. So currently, my student loans aren't overwhelming me. And Simeon's won't start to become a thing for another 6 years which is awesome.

Right now we are paying around $700 for a two bedroom apartment and having a dog in said apartment. We could afford up to a  $1000 mortgage for a 3 bedroom house with a fenced backyard and semi-finished basement and actually own the place. 


Animal Reasons


A giant reason to be looking into getting a house is that Fox needs an actual yard. Simeon and I are sick and tired of putting on layers of clothes to leash Fox up and put on his halti every single time that he may or may not have to potty. (Honestly, he more than likely doesn't have to pottty but is whining at the door cause he is bored. 

Another fun reason is that I really, really want another dog. And having plenty of space for us to start growing our family in a human child way AND in an animal child way would be completely amazing. And not having to worry about what the animals do to our house would be great to. That way I know how to fix the random things that Fox or Odette or any other critter we bring home does to our house. 

I also really want to create a little foster area in our basement so that I can bring home more than just kittens. I would love to also house dogs who need medical or socialization reasons for foster or also bring home mam dogs who want to care for their littler in peace. Simeon and I were already discussing redoing portions of the basement to create an easy to clean housing area for fosters. Preferably big enough to house a mama dog and her puppies. Though, I wouldn't want a pregnant mam having to go up and down the stairs to the basement constantly. so we will have to see how the planning goes. 


Comfort Reasons


The house that we are looking at is in a million times better neighborhood than our current apartment. Then there is also the whole fact that we also live in an apartment with small walls factor which is annoying since a family with a dog moved in above us last month and whenever that dog barks, Fox starts to bark. Oh and it's a corner apartment on the bottom floor so Fox sees each and every dog that is outside our windows and goes crazy.

Though I was pretty sure that Odette was going to get eaten by a dog yesterday since I had the windows open and a dog saw her on the other side of the window screen and lunged at her.  There are also two yorkie mixes across the hall that I'm pretty sure want to eat Fox. They are tiny little things but constantly attack the door if Fox is even in the hall. And don't get me started on the dog aggressive Boston's that also live down the hall.

Better question, who moves into an apartment building full of dogs with dog aggressive dogs?!?

Anyway, I would feel a million times better if we were into our own space instead of continuing our apartment life. Not only for safety reason, but getting more space as well! Our two bedroom apartment is fine but it isn't laid out in a way that makes it easy to really want to use the bedroom spaces. I feel completely shut off from anything else. In the home that we are looking at, nothing is a hallway away from each other and the main rooms (and the room i want to make my office) are pretty interconnected!

BUT I did say that I wanted to avoid going into too much detail about the actual home. So I'm going to end this post before I start going into any actual detail since I really really really want to!

 

 

Honestly. . .

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I've been finding it very difficult to write lately. There are posts that I know that I want to write, but fear still seems to grip me. Fear that I'm oversharing, or that what's going on my life isn't really what anyone wants to hear anymore. Fear that I won't have the perfect blog post that will resonate with anyone or that I won't have the perfect graphic to get people to read my story and know they aren't alone.

Yes, I've already talked openly about our struggles with #ProjectBabyG, but that doesn't make it any less scary every time I go to spill my guts on it again. Saying it out loud (even just through my fingers to the internet world) that we are struggling makes every moment more real. It makes me look down at the date and realize just how long we've been trying to do this. 

Honestly, I'm heading back to blogging for me.

I would love to be a resource for the many women out there struggling just as I am, as a few blogs have been in the past for me. I say in the past as these woman now have bouncing babies covering their blog post pages, which is amazing! Don't get me wrong, I've very very happy for these women, but they don't struggle alongside me anymore. I do love that one has walked alternate paths that Simeon and I plan to do so seeing how it looked for her is amazing. But that is a story for another day.

Does anyone even want to hear about a person struggling anymore? Even if they are struggling with the same things? Everywhere I turn, blog posts, instagram post, pintrest feeds are all being curated to perfection. And apparently that is the only way to survive in this blogging world anymore. I'm not really a fan. 

I'd rather be authentic with you and show the true mess that I live in every day. Cause let's be honest, I work full time and live with a husband, dog, cat, AND a chinchilla. And a fish who gets forgotten a lot. And with the struggles of not being able to have a baby when I want to so bad, sometimes I just don't want to do anything but wallow or cuddle my fur babies and try to be grateful for the babies I've been blessed with.

I guess in all honesty, qhat I'm saying is that my mind is 100% full of everything that is no longer cool in the blog world. I don't want to give you mindless tips on how to do blah and blah. Cause there are too many how to blog posts anyway. I want to give you real posts. What I'm doing to emotionally prep for #ProjectBabyG. How I really balance full time work with loving my animals, caring for a home and hubby in grad school, and still try to find time to keep sane. Surviving all of my friends and family being prego  without unfriending every single one.

I will try to not make everything so long winded and deep, I'll try to have a few light hearted posts as well. But I need to just start writing again. And remember what it's like to write for myself instead of just writing for everyone else. 

December Priorities

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There was a time on this blog when I made monthly and weekly goals and I was decently good at them, but since getting married and bringing home my little zoo of animals, I've realized that sometimes my time isn't 100% mine. So priorities really seems to sound like a better way to put the things that I would like done in a month, but know that my animals, work, or husband will come first if need be. 

Wow, that sounded strangely adult-ish. 

But anyway! Priorities!!

1|| Actually set some goals for 2017

While I'm avoiding goals this month, I still strongly beleive in yearly goals. Not that I really accomplished the goals that I set last year, but that was because life changed in more ways than I ever thought would happen! But we'll see what I would like to happen and what actually does this next year!

2|| Keep my Christmas tree actually decorated.

Odette and Fox love to play together. The biggest issue is that they love to play in my Christmas tree and have already knocked it down twice! So we will see if this actually happens!

3|| Paint my Nails

I've been trying to paint my nails for 4 weeks. I just want pretty nails!

4|| Master Fudge

I made some this past weekend but it was more like hot fudge than nice yummy melt in your mouth hard fudge like my mom makes. It never set. So I will try again!

5|| Take more photos.

There hit a point this year where I thought I was spending too much time behind the camera and wasn't having any fun in front of the camera or just hanging with people. So then I went to the extreme opposite and haven't really touched my camera much in months.

My Happy List

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I saw this post on a blog that I read and thought that it was am amazing idea. And with all the crazy negativity lately, jumping into a giant list of all the things that make me happy sounds like a wonderful way to really jump back into blogging! 

So here it is! My happy list!

Fox Bentley

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Simeon <3

Chino the Chinchilla

Odette Swan

Christmas Trees!

My Family

Pretty Photos

Watching puppies go home to their owners

Bubble baths

Day Designer

Chinchilla instagram accounts

Puppy Instagram accounts

Puppy cuddles

When Chino sits in my lap

Watching Simeon play with our neice and nephew

A good book

Watching our little family grow into a zoo

Day Designer

An organized office

Watching Fox and Odette play together

Watching Fox and Chino start to get to know each other

Family Photos with the Pup

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This past August I got a hold of my favorite photographer, Miranda from Miranda Renee Photography, and asked her how she felt about photographing dogs! She admitted that it wasn't something that she usually did but was extremely excited to give our family portraits a try! 

In all honesty, I was super nervous about these photos. I hadn't been feeling exactly . . . pretty. I ended up gaining a lot of weight these last few years and was feeling pretty uncomfortable but I knew that I really wanted updated photos. So I scheduled them anyway, and honestly, I am so incredibly happy that I did! These photos are amazing and I don't think I would have wanted to have missed this time in our lives in the future.

These photos were to celebrate our new beginnings. Our little family. Our new state! New career paths and a refocus on each other.